Thursday, March 10, 2011

Why FB?

Suddenly out of nowhere I was thinking why we need facebook(FB)? To connect people? To fill in our free time? To get new friends? Or, as a cupid for a single, or maybe men who are still have 3-available seats?-this is not-so-famous-but-liked-by-men-joke-(really not my favorite one though)

For me, it's more to connect me and my old friends-either by getting re-united or to get to know better. But, to be frank, not many occasion successfully established, although the chats are going like pasar-malam :P

I am now at my home sitting next to my bed while watching my kids sleeping while sometimes mumbling :)-how cute. I was almost at my-half-mood-sleep when mr hubby texted that he couldn't take leave for our school holiday trip to just a nearby place. Then, I was awake and fresh again(atleast to make a new post) and searched for the next day rate and luckily it was around 40myr cheaper than the original rate. It was really our luck because since few days back I was stalking the agoda/booking website, no rates lower than that. So done with amendment of date etc etc and was checking my fb.
Nothing really special except for some of my friends were doing some fake (read: to frame someone) wall post among us. Of course I was on the comments list and I guess it will continue untill we get to framed 'her'. The funny thing is, we don't even know who is this girl :P.

Back to the topic.
FB really changes people I guess. From someone who are not really friendly in real-life to a VERY-friendly-charming-always available-photogenic-person, or from innocent to a very-evil-look, or enough with a profile picture of someone fierce, or cute or pictures of their cat or whatever pictures which is not the owner.
Opps, off topic. But, I really can't accept people who don't put their own pictures and ask people around do we know him/her? What the h*** that do you think people could or should remember you with your 2-years old kids pictures on your profile?

Actually I had a simple question in my mind.
Should we stay connected with our husband? wife? or even close family?in FB?
So that everything will be inter-related while tagging each other?
Or is it better to have separate life in the web-life? And stay apart?

And, what if this kinda scenario happen?
1- IF I commented(some not-so-friendly-joke) on my junior highschool ex-classmate,(of-course men and used to be my-ex-bf but now no-feeling at all) and I don't get a chance to explain who is this guy to mr.hubby, so he will have a high possibility to conclude-'is she cheating on me?' And, vice versa.
2- IF I put some pictures of me and my friends(of course girl) hanging out somewhere without his permission(just some sudden action while doing lunch) and ter-bought something that he shouldn't know like another bag :P, and he'll definitely see it and conclude : 'you went out and bought another bag??'

These are only few simple examples that I can think of now. But there're thousands of other reasons I guess will led to misunderstanding and confusion and at last a fight between you and your partner at home in your real life. Doesn't it hurt? Your feeling, your heart and your marriage? While it can led to fitnah and tuduh menuduh between you? While actually you don't have any intentions to hurt your love?

So for me, to respect our partner and the biggest thing is the trust that can't be simply build within a year or two, I rather not to connect with my partner and stay connected with all my friends and still enjoying fb as it be~~What say you?
Good night :)


Shida Hamid said...

its quite complicated when talking about FB...nothing spesel..hehehehhe..

Mama Liena said...

heheh cam tau je yani , yani beli bag aper kat pavillion ari tuh :)

but fb definitely ada vice versa

YANI said...

dot, utk org yg dah buang fb, memang sukkiri sappari kan :)
kak lina, eh, mana ada beli beg >-<